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		<title>Comment on Well I NEVER! &#8211; Is belly dance inappropriate or offensive? by Mary</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mary</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Jun 2011 14:13:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>If Wordpress had a *like* button, I&#039;d use it Nilay! :) Thank you for understanding the post had nothing to do with the dancer and more to do with the catty comments by the other bride - there really wasn&#039;t enough dancing shown in the clip to allow for any conclusions about her or her skill level. If deriding someone else&#039;s wedding is one of the main topics for the show, then I think I agree with you that it&#039;s inappropriate. Weddings are complicated enough to plan without someone else&#039;s (negative) unsolicited opinion!

&quot;Belly dancing is about joyfulness, artistry, emotional elevation and elation. From this perspective it should not be inappropriate for any celebratory or fun event.&quot; &lt;-- LOVE!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If WordPress had a *like* button, I&#8217;d use it Nilay! <img src='http://maryraks.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  Thank you for understanding the post had nothing to do with the dancer and more to do with the catty comments by the other bride &#8211; there really wasn&#8217;t enough dancing shown in the clip to allow for any conclusions about her or her skill level. If deriding someone else&#8217;s wedding is one of the main topics for the show, then I think I agree with you that it&#8217;s inappropriate. Weddings are complicated enough to plan without someone else&#8217;s (negative) unsolicited opinion!</p>
<p>&#8220;Belly dancing is about joyfulness, artistry, emotional elevation and elation. From this perspective it should not be inappropriate for any celebratory or fun event.&#8221; <&#8211; LOVE!</p>
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		<title>Comment on Well I NEVER! &#8211; Is belly dance inappropriate or offensive? by Nilay</title>
		<link>http://maryraks.com/2011/05/well-i-never-is-belly-dance-inappropriate-or-offensive/#comment-532</link>
		<dc:creator>Nilay</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 29 May 2011 16:37:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>From that clip of the episode, the dancer shows a few neat belly dance moves. Nothing seems to be inappropriate. 
Usually 4 weddings show is all about 3 of the girls defining what is &quot;gross&quot; in the other girl&#039;s wedding. To  my opinion, the show itself is inappropriate, rude and very offensive at times since they make very insensitive comments about someone&#039;s very most special day and efforts. Due to this reason I do not take it seriously or care for any comments made there.
However, about finding &quot;bad&quot; dancing and similar inappropriate situations are very well to the point.
Belly dancing is about joyfulness, artistry, emotional elevation and elation. From this perspective it should not be inappropriate for any celebratory or fun event.
All the love to you and your work and thanks for bringing this subject up.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>From that clip of the episode, the dancer shows a few neat belly dance moves. Nothing seems to be inappropriate.<br />
Usually 4 weddings show is all about 3 of the girls defining what is &#8220;gross&#8221; in the other girl&#8217;s wedding. To  my opinion, the show itself is inappropriate, rude and very offensive at times since they make very insensitive comments about someone&#8217;s very most special day and efforts. Due to this reason I do not take it seriously or care for any comments made there.<br />
However, about finding &#8220;bad&#8221; dancing and similar inappropriate situations are very well to the point.<br />
Belly dancing is about joyfulness, artistry, emotional elevation and elation. From this perspective it should not be inappropriate for any celebratory or fun event.<br />
All the love to you and your work and thanks for bringing this subject up.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Well I NEVER! &#8211; Is belly dance inappropriate or offensive? by Mary</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mary</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 04:04:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wonderful point Tara! I think unintended (or intended) sexualization of the dance makes it harder for it to seem acceptable and suitable in family situations. One can be a beautiful, strong female and enjoy dancing without including untoward gestures that aren&#039;t really part of the performance vocabulary in the dance.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wonderful point Tara! I think unintended (or intended) sexualization of the dance makes it harder for it to seem acceptable and suitable in family situations. One can be a beautiful, strong female and enjoy dancing without including untoward gestures that aren&#8217;t really part of the performance vocabulary in the dance.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Well I NEVER! &#8211; Is belly dance inappropriate or offensive? by Tara</title>
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		<dc:creator>Tara</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 15:52:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think some of what makes a bellydancer &quot;bad&quot; is skill level, but for me the biggest turnoff is sexualizing the dance. I can handle a bad dancer if she isn&#039;t touching herself or catering to only the males in the room. At least I know she is trying to see this as art and not a subsitiute for her own insecurity. 
Great post!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think some of what makes a bellydancer &#8220;bad&#8221; is skill level, but for me the biggest turnoff is sexualizing the dance. I can handle a bad dancer if she isn&#8217;t touching herself or catering to only the males in the room. At least I know she is trying to see this as art and not a subsitiute for her own insecurity.<br />
Great post!</p>
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		<title>Comment on Belly Dance is Not&#8230; by Carrara</title>
		<link>http://maryraks.com/2011/04/belly-dance-is-not/#comment-290</link>
		<dc:creator>Carrara</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 02 Apr 2011 17:37:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I was just ranting out loud about this the other day! 

Belly dance has been around longer than ALL of us have been alive. Sometimes, the level of disdain and/or disrespect toward the REAL cultural roots of the dance just amaze me. 

&quot;Oh, but it&#039;s art! Art evolves!&quot; 

True, belly dance has absorbed certain non-native influences through the years, but that&#039;s no excuse to deliberately ADD Americanized influences (or flamenco, or Bollywood, or whatever) into your dance until it&#039;s no longer recognizable. If all the fusionistas splintered off and formed their own offshoot of belly dance, under the umbrella of modern global fusion, that would be exciting! But if you think traditional Arabic movements and music are boring, it&#039;s time to ask yourself why you belly dance in the first place...

Also, I think this hyperactive, pop-and-lockfest style of belly dance that everybody&#039;s doing these days is just as uncouthe as WTFusion. But that&#039;s a whole &#039;nother rant....</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I was just ranting out loud about this the other day! </p>
<p>Belly dance has been around longer than ALL of us have been alive. Sometimes, the level of disdain and/or disrespect toward the REAL cultural roots of the dance just amaze me. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh, but it&#8217;s art! Art evolves!&#8221; </p>
<p>True, belly dance has absorbed certain non-native influences through the years, but that&#8217;s no excuse to deliberately ADD Americanized influences (or flamenco, or Bollywood, or whatever) into your dance until it&#8217;s no longer recognizable. If all the fusionistas splintered off and formed their own offshoot of belly dance, under the umbrella of modern global fusion, that would be exciting! But if you think traditional Arabic movements and music are boring, it&#8217;s time to ask yourself why you belly dance in the first place&#8230;</p>
<p>Also, I think this hyperactive, pop-and-lockfest style of belly dance that everybody&#8217;s doing these days is just as uncouthe as WTFusion. But that&#8217;s a whole &#8216;nother rant&#8230;.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Belly Dance is Not&#8230; by Mary</title>
		<link>http://maryraks.com/2011/04/belly-dance-is-not/#comment-289</link>
		<dc:creator>Mary</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 02 Apr 2011 17:07:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Belly dance is absolutely a misnomer, and personally I do prefer using Raqs Sharqi, Oriental Dance, or Middle Eastern Dance - Raqs Baladi refers to the baladi style of dancing, not Oriental. :) I also completely agree that using the &quot;belly dance&quot; term opens the field for more variations dance styles too. 

There have been changes and fusions in the dance over the years, even &quot;over there&quot; and as an art, it will evolve. Recently though, I feel as if there are some dance styles and forms that have been using the &quot;belly dance&quot; term and have absolutely no relation whatsoever with the Middle East, Middle Eastern culture, or Middle Eastern dance. If labeled properly, presented in suitable venues and done well, variations in style can be a positive addition to belly dance. Usually those who break the rules also understand them well and spend time studying more traditional dance. 

 The &quot;big issue&quot; arises because most people in the Western world recognize belly dance as &quot;belly dance&quot; and are unfamiliar with any other name. With so many &quot;belly dance&quot; performances showing up on the internet and at events that leave one wondering &quot;Where is the &#039;belly dance&#039;?&quot; I am concerned that some &quot;belly dancers&quot; now have no knowledge of anything actually connected with the origins of the dance and, to me, this is the point where you can&#039;t even call it &quot;something-style belly dance&quot; anymore and it&#039;s just a different style of dance altogether. The more these examples become public, the harder it will be to explain what Middle Eastern Dance is and isn&#039;t to the general public.

All that being said, I&#039;m also not a fan of clones in Oriental dance either - I&#039;m waiting for the coming resurgence of interest within the dance community for &quot;finding your own voice&quot; in Oriental because clones are boring. :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Belly dance is absolutely a misnomer, and personally I do prefer using Raqs Sharqi, Oriental Dance, or Middle Eastern Dance &#8211; Raqs Baladi refers to the baladi style of dancing, not Oriental. <img src='http://maryraks.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  I also completely agree that using the &#8220;belly dance&#8221; term opens the field for more variations dance styles too. </p>
<p>There have been changes and fusions in the dance over the years, even &#8220;over there&#8221; and as an art, it will evolve. Recently though, I feel as if there are some dance styles and forms that have been using the &#8220;belly dance&#8221; term and have absolutely no relation whatsoever with the Middle East, Middle Eastern culture, or Middle Eastern dance. If labeled properly, presented in suitable venues and done well, variations in style can be a positive addition to belly dance. Usually those who break the rules also understand them well and spend time studying more traditional dance. </p>
<p> The &#8220;big issue&#8221; arises because most people in the Western world recognize belly dance as &#8220;belly dance&#8221; and are unfamiliar with any other name. With so many &#8220;belly dance&#8221; performances showing up on the internet and at events that leave one wondering &#8220;Where is the &#8216;belly dance&#8217;?&#8221; I am concerned that some &#8220;belly dancers&#8221; now have no knowledge of anything actually connected with the origins of the dance and, to me, this is the point where you can&#8217;t even call it &#8220;something-style belly dance&#8221; anymore and it&#8217;s just a different style of dance altogether. The more these examples become public, the harder it will be to explain what Middle Eastern Dance is and isn&#8217;t to the general public.</p>
<p>All that being said, I&#8217;m also not a fan of clones in Oriental dance either &#8211; I&#8217;m waiting for the coming resurgence of interest within the dance community for &#8220;finding your own voice&#8221; in Oriental because clones are boring. <img src='http://maryraks.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>Comment on Belly Dance is Not&#8230; by Deb</title>
		<link>http://maryraks.com/2011/04/belly-dance-is-not/#comment-287</link>
		<dc:creator>Deb</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 02 Apr 2011 12:47:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The one statement I keep hearing over and over from various organizations and people is that &quot;belly dance&quot; is not called &quot;belly dance&quot; by serious dancers or people of Middle Eastern descent. It&#039;s ME dance. It&#039;s raqs sharqi. It&#039;s raqs baladi.  It&#039;s anything BUT belly dance. 

This leads me to the conclusion that by calling this wonderful dance form belly dance one immediately places it in the category of art form in which any type of stylistic deviation is acceptable as long as that stylistic deviation is not called authentic. There may be portions of belly dance that is authentic and can be noted as such. But just as  one doesn&#039;t call a daisy a rose because they are both red one should not confuse authentic folkloric dance with stylistic fusion.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The one statement I keep hearing over and over from various organizations and people is that &#8220;belly dance&#8221; is not called &#8220;belly dance&#8221; by serious dancers or people of Middle Eastern descent. It&#8217;s ME dance. It&#8217;s raqs sharqi. It&#8217;s raqs baladi.  It&#8217;s anything BUT belly dance. </p>
<p>This leads me to the conclusion that by calling this wonderful dance form belly dance one immediately places it in the category of art form in which any type of stylistic deviation is acceptable as long as that stylistic deviation is not called authentic. There may be portions of belly dance that is authentic and can be noted as such. But just as  one doesn&#8217;t call a daisy a rose because they are both red one should not confuse authentic folkloric dance with stylistic fusion.</p>
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		<title>Comment on A Client&#8217;s Bill of Rights by Mary</title>
		<link>http://maryraks.com/2011/03/a-clients-bill-of-rights/#comment-160</link>
		<dc:creator>Mary</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Mar 2011 01:58:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you! 

I most definitely agree people want to work with someone they can connect with on a personal level. I had a florist recently tell me I knew nothing about flowers because a particular blossom she put into a bouquet &quot;came with brown spots on the petals.&quot; The attitude and indifference I felt from her towards a bouquet that had importance for me cost her my business forever. As cliche as it sounds, life is too short and too precious to waste time with mediocrity.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you! </p>
<p>I most definitely agree people want to work with someone they can connect with on a personal level. I had a florist recently tell me I knew nothing about flowers because a particular blossom she put into a bouquet &#8220;came with brown spots on the petals.&#8221; The attitude and indifference I felt from her towards a bouquet that had importance for me cost her my business forever. As cliche as it sounds, life is too short and too precious to waste time with mediocrity.</p>
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		<title>Comment on A Client&#8217;s Bill of Rights by Carrara</title>
		<link>http://maryraks.com/2011/03/a-clients-bill-of-rights/#comment-157</link>
		<dc:creator>Carrara</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Mar 2011 21:06:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This is a stellar post, Mary. Everything is right on point, especially your thoughts on communication. I encourage brides to speak up about their likes, their dislikes, and their concerns (and do my very best to honor all of their wishes) instead of the all-too-common &quot;Here&#039;s what I&#039;m doing and you&#039;re gonna love it&quot; approach. 

Also, if I don&#039;t know the answer to a question, I don&#039;t pretend to know. I&#039;ll say, &quot;I&#039;m not sure, but can I get back to you with an answer?&quot; This approach proves your credibility far more than spouting out a bogus answer!

I think today, it&#039;s important to demonstrate that you&#039;re a warm, breathing human being with the capacity to listen, ask questions, and give friendly advice. After all, they&#039;re investing in more than just a show, but hopefully something far more meaningful :) 

My $0.02, anyway! Keep up the great blogging, Mary!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is a stellar post, Mary. Everything is right on point, especially your thoughts on communication. I encourage brides to speak up about their likes, their dislikes, and their concerns (and do my very best to honor all of their wishes) instead of the all-too-common &#8220;Here&#8217;s what I&#8217;m doing and you&#8217;re gonna love it&#8221; approach. </p>
<p>Also, if I don&#8217;t know the answer to a question, I don&#8217;t pretend to know. I&#8217;ll say, &#8220;I&#8217;m not sure, but can I get back to you with an answer?&#8221; This approach proves your credibility far more than spouting out a bogus answer!</p>
<p>I think today, it&#8217;s important to demonstrate that you&#8217;re a warm, breathing human being with the capacity to listen, ask questions, and give friendly advice. After all, they&#8217;re investing in more than just a show, but hopefully something far more meaningful <img src='http://maryraks.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  </p>
<p>My $0.02, anyway! Keep up the great blogging, Mary!</p>
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		<dc:creator>Tweets that mention Contracts 101 &#124; Mary -- Topsy.com</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Feb 2011 18:58:04 +0000</pubDate>
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